Wednesday, June 13, 2012

A COMPANION LIKE NO OTHER


There comes a time in everyone’s life when they have to deal with a loved one’s passing. Sometimes it happens in an instant with no warning at all and sometimes we are allowed time to prepare for the day when we will no longer physically see our loved one. Arrangements are made, goodbyes are said and the emotional preparations are done.   But, what if the loved one is a dog???
 

Welcome
to your new home, Nadia!!
Puppies are usually brought into our lives when they turn 6 weeks old and are finally able to leave their momma's. At that time we think they are the cutest little bundles ever and we can’t wait to get home to play with them. They seem to learn very quickly exactly how to wrap themselves around our fingers. A bark from a 6 week old puppy in the middle of the night can bring you out of a deep sleep just as fast as if you heard a baby cry. Then there are the good ol potty training days!! Who doesn’t love potty training a puppy?? How many of us have clapped and cheered for our little furball when they’ve finally learned to squat in the grass instead of on that new rug?

Then, they grow up. Instead of being those yappy, little furballs that want our attention constantly they become companions. When they hear your car door shut they know you’re home and head straight for the door. The door is opened and there they stand with their tails wagging so hard from excitement you are sure they're going to give themselves whiplash! If you’re lucky, you have a dog that truly thinks they are your shadow. When you get up and walk to the other room so does your four legged shadow, when you go to get in the shower, be careful as you step out…there’s your four legged shadow waiting patiently for you. How many times have you almost dropped a plate of food or tripped to your death because that four legged shadow had followed you into another room and was sitting at your feet when you turned to walk away?

Nadia & Boomer
As companions, our furry, four legged shadows witness things that humans don’t even get to witness. They are with you when you’re home alone, they are with you when you’re sad, when you’re mad, laughing, crying, awake, asleep, cooking dinner, folding clothes, they hear your phone conversations, they join you in the living room when company comes over, they travel with you and head to the door when they see you grab their leash and know the words "let's go” are about to come out of your mouth.  And, if you’re really lucky you have an animal who learns your routine and is willing and ready to make it part of their own routine as well. You know exactly what I mean if you happen to have a pet that knows that when you turn the lights off in the living room and double check the front door you’re getting ready to go to bed. If your amazing pet patiently waits for you at the foot of your bed as you continue to prepare your house for nighttime or if you have a pet that climbs up on your bed, finds their spot and settles in for the night as you get into your covers, then you have a pet that has made your routine their routine. It’s really amazing when you think about everything our pets witness in our lives. And even after seeing what they see it’s even more amazing that they don’t run off the first chance they get!

I’m an animal lover but, I believe a dog is a dog. Well, I used to believe that a dog is a dog….

Last Tuesday, I got a call from Colton and he said that our Nadia was acting a little funny. Our family companion of 12 years had been sick and we’d just taken her to the vet a week before and thought she was on the road to recovery. Nadia, like any older aged woman, had hot flashes at times. (That’s what I called them anyway.) She was most comfortable on any given day in front of her fan. So, when he called and said she was panting like crazy I told him to get her fan and she should calm down. He did it and it worked!! She calmed right down and sat in front of her fan with her crazy hair and ears blowing away! Colton left the house to go to the gym and I told him I’d go by the house at lunch to check on her. Nadia had plans of her own though. By the time I got to the house our precious Nadia was gone.

Naptime!!!
Although Nadia was alone when she decided to go be one of the many companions at Jesus’ feet, I was not alone when I walked in the house. I happened to be on the phone to someone who loved Nadia just as much as I did…my momma. The next few hours were a little bumpy, but I can’t tell you this story without telling you how amazing my child was during this time. I will tell you enough to get my point across, but hopefully not too much that it will embarrass him. First of all, he came straight home as soon as he got the call from my mom. He stayed with me while I had my “moment” and then he and his friend Justin took care of our Nadia. Not only did they take care of her, but they went above and beyond. That’s a story for another post, but I will tell you that Nadia is exactly where she needs to be and in a matter of hours it was all taken care of and Colton displayed the most amazing care taking characteristics & a maturity that I can't even explain.  Skills that he is sure to tap into in the days, weeks, and years to come. 


Welcome Baby Abby & Baby Jeter!!
I sat in my quiet living room in disbelief that this being that had been in our lives for 12 years was now gone. She’d seen Colton grow up! She’d moved with us several times while we lived in Pampa, then moved to Amarillo, then moved back to Pampa, then back to Amarillo AGAIN. She'd witnessed countless sleepless nights, our sadness, our laughter, disagreements, the receiving of good news and some bad, she'd given birth to 6 puppies, had 2 of them die and spent the last year and half having our new German Sheppard think she was a chew toy.  She lasted longer and showed more loyalty then some humans that had come in and out of my life over the past 12 years.  She had her own special spot on my bed where she'd sleep, her favorite place to lay in the kitchen and sat at my feet every single night of my life for the past 12 years. She adjusted very well to my schedule, but was a complete diva and had a schedule that I had to adjust too as well. Boomer and Ally go to the backyard…Nadia goes to the front yard. She’s the only one that sleeps on my bed, but when she gets too hot and starts "hot flashing" she has a blanket under my bed that she prefers to sleep on.  She's the only pup that eats in the house in the mornings and she gets to travel to Pampa for day trips while the other two stay behind. She gets “special” food and gets to sleep under the covers when we stay at Nana’s house while the others fight for their spots on the bed.  FYI...Mom and/or I are usually fighting for our own spots as well!  She pretty much gets to do whatever she wants, whenever she wants.  What can I say...she's NADIA!!! 

So now what??? I’ve spent the last week adjusting to my new routine. It's weird and quiet and not normal.  I no longer have to come home and let Nadia out at lunch, before I take a trip to the store, or meet friends for dinner after work. I took my first trip to Pampa this past weekend to visit my parents without my traveling companion sitting in the passenger seat with her ears blowing in the A/C.  She would wag her tail and bark uncontrollably every time I turned on 23rd because she knew we were only a few blocks away at that point and would let me know it until we pulled into my parents driveway.  We had a bigger routine together than I even realized and I miss it. 


Ally & Nadia...bonding!
I've always loved my animals but thought that they were just that...animals, until last Tuesday.  I don't feed them from the table, I don't carry them around in designer bags, I don't let them roam the house while we're gone, and I don't let them jump all over the furniture, unless of course the furniture is covered by one of their blankets.  I mean we love our animals, but besides their special treats, favorite spots to sleep and taking them on road trips I've never gone overboard with them.  Can I tell you that I wanted to go overboard last Tuesday.  It's not like I wanted her to lay in state and be buried on a secluded island or anything, but I didn't want 12 years to be over with in 2 hours either.  Thankfully, I happen to have people in my life who understood what I was going through and knew exactly what I needed. 

So, thank you to my friends and family that cried with me and allowed me to carry on like a blubbering maniac, thank you for the cards, the flowers, the text messages, the phone calls, and especially to that Sweet Child of Mine who gave Nadia the best seat in the house!! 

And, thank you for allowing me to go overboard  for the one pup that deserves to be gone overboard for!! 


Nadia
December 1, 1999 - June 5, 2012



Nadia through the years...














Sunday, May 20, 2012

Cloudy with a chance of...YOU'RE STAYING IN TEXAS!!

This blog could easily have also been titled "To Book a Flight or Not Book a Flight?...That is the Question"  Here's the situation...if it doesn't rain the festivities will be held outside and you can invite as many family members as you want!!  But, (there's always a but!) if it does rain the festivities will be moved inside and only 4 tickets will be given per family. 


Really?  Rain in Illinois???  What do you think the odds are of it raining?  Have you been to Illinois???  Trees, water, grass...GREEN grass.  Wondering if it's going to rain or not is like wondering if the wind is going to blow in the Panhandle.  OF COURSE IT'S GONNA RAIN!!!  Because of the predictable Illinois weather the question then became - How do you squeeze 8 people (or 9 if our other precious Taylor would've been able to go) into 4 seats??  Naturally, that's the only logical option!  Duh!!!  We would sort out the minor details of which four would be the seater's and which four would be the seatee's after our arrival.  I'm sure it would be settled over a game of cards and a pitcher or two of sweet tea & chocolate chip cookies (homemade of course!)!!  The seater's would be praying that the seatee's would go easy on the cookies!!! 

Obviously since I'm writing all about it the decision was made to not book the flight because the odds were much greater that it was going to rain than it wouldn't.  It turns out that flying 1,000 miles and having to sit on someone's lap (or having someone sit on your lap) for 2 hours was not that great of an option afterall.  So here we are...Me and Colton in Amarillo and Mom & Dad in Pampa... still 1,000 miles a way from the graduation ceremony of our first nephew, first cousin, and first grandchild.  Bummed doesn't even begin to describe how we feel.  So, we will hang tight and patiently (maybe) wait for a text from my sis that has the first of the many graduation pics of the day.
If we were there for this blessed occasion we would have the greatest graduation party for our Taylor and many, many congratulatory speeches would be said by all.  Knowing my family the way that I do I'm sure that some of those speeches would be much more humorous than others!!  Taylor, it might be a good thing that we're not there!   

Here though, is what I would try to choke out between many tears and lots of laughter!   

Taylor,

Congratulations!!!  Saying we are proud of you doesn't even begin to scratch the surface of how we feel about you.  But PROUD, we are!!  Not only for the person you chose to be during those tough teen years, but also for who you've become as a young adult.  You have continued to hold onto those amazing morals and values your fabulous parents raised you on and you have truly "kept your nose clean!"  With all the peer pressure and expectations to "do" things while in high school, you have stayed strong in your beliefs and it's carried you through.  Give yourself a pat on the back and take a minute to join us in being proud of you.

In addition to being so unbelievably proud of you we are so excited!!  God has blessed you with some amazing gifts and talents and we can't wait to see how He uses those gifts through you.  We all have an idea in our head of what we think your future holds, but we KNOW that God's plan for you is 1000x more amazing than anything we can possibly dream up!    

Hang on bud!  You are about to go on the ride of your life!!  You are entering the time of your life when you begin to learn so much about yourself...keep God close. Although you may stay in touch with a friend or two from high school you will more than likely meet your true life long friends during your college years...keep God close.  You will learn what it's like to have an independence you haven't experienced or needed to experience up to this point...keep God close.  You will have greater responsibilities that will also have greater consequences when not taken care of...keep God close.  You will no longer get to have your mommy call in for you when you're sick or "sick"...keep God close.    You will realize how important family is and will realize how much you need your parents AND Greyson...keep God close.  And lastly, you will no longer get to use ANY excuse you could use before because the moment you have waited for is here...YOU ARE AN ADULT...DUDE, KEEP GOD CLOSE!

Now some advice from your old, wise Aunt Erin
  1. Stay true to who you know you are!
  2. Your choices, your consequences!
  3. God first. Family second. Everything else (school, hockey, chicks, fun) prioritized as needed, but remember...Advice #2!!! 
  4. When you get into a situation and don't know what to do, remember what your mom and dad taught you over the last 18 years...whatever the situation is...they were right!  I PROMISE!!
  5. Work Hard, Play Hard, but again remember Advice #2
  6. Eat Group Apple Pie as often as possible!
  7. Thank God every day regardless of how good the day was!
  8. Smile!!
  9. If you ever need ANYTHING, call 1-800-AUNTERI
Taylor Blake, it's been a joy watching you grow up and turn into the amazing person you are.  I personally can't tell you how thrilled I am when my phone rings and it's you on the other end.  I can't imagine what my life would be without you as my nephew.  I am proud and honored to be your aunt!!  I love you more than a fat kid loves cake and will be screaming my head off from Texas as you walk across that stage!! 

Go conquer the world!  I expect nothing less from you!!  

I love you big bunches than that!!!!  Don't forget...party in July when you get to town!!!  :)

 

Wednesday, April 11, 2012

WHAT A DIFFERENCE 20 YEARS MAKES


ALOT CAN HAPPEN IN 20 YEARS...
AND AREN'T WE THANKFUL FOR THAT!!!
April 11, 2012



On this day, twenty years ago I was a sophomore in high school and was passed a note on the way to class by one of my friends (Sheila, I think) from this guy who was a senior. I opened the note and at the end it said, “P.S. On April 11, 1974 a star was born." Yes, that is a pic of the actual letter. What can I say...I'm an emotional hoarder! At the time I received that note I probably agreed with him that he was a star, but today I don’t know that I’d be so quick to say “star!” I was 15 then and didn’t even consider whether or not he would be around at the end of the school year let alone in 20 years. It wasn’t until a few months later that I began hoping he would always be there.

It’s very rare that you stay in contact with the person you date in high school. It’s even more rare that you stay in a relationship with that person after high school and even more rare that you marry and remain married 20 years later. It can happen, this I know. I’ve seen it and I think it’s wonderful when two people not only grow together, but grow up together. We however, weren’t that lucky.

I look back at the past 20 years and first of all can’t believe that so much time has passed. I remember who he was back then (BDC) and who I was back then (Eazy E – there’s a story there. Don’t read too much into that nickname!) and I look at both of us now and how far we’ve come. We’re grown ups and are now acting like it. It’s a nice change. It’s taken a lot of conversations, a lot of time, a lot of praying, a lot of understanding, a lot of compromise, a lot of agreeing to disagree, and mostly a lot of forgiving on both of our parts to get to this place. God doesn’t measure or keep track of my wrongdoings, He just forgives me when I ask him to and that’s exactly what we've decided to do.

Here's what I've learned over the last 20 years...

It definitely does take two. Two to make it work and two to mess it up! One person may start the argument, but it takes a second person to keep it going. One person may be working on the relationship, but the other one has to make a choice to put the same amount of work in. One person may forgive, but in order to move on the other person needs to do the same. Seems simple and almost embarrassing to admit that it took us so long to get it. I’m at a point in my life where it is no longer necessary to keep score of everything someone (anyone) has said or done to hurt me. I am no angel and my windows have enough cracks in them as it is so I’m in no position to throw stones or judge anyone else. We all make choices…some good, and some not so good. The great thing is that even though life doesn’t have a rewind button we do sometimes get the opportunity to make things right. I highly recommend that if there’s something in your life that needs to be made right that you do it!

So, after 20 years of ups and downs, highs and lows and a lot of stuff in between I’m happy to say that our relationship is still standing. God filled in the blanks of both of our lives during the down times and has blessed us with ALOT of smiles and laughter to begin the next chapter with. We’ve decided to do as Timon and Pumba do! “You gotta put your behind in your past!” "No,no, no it’s, You gotta put your past behind ya!” If you’ve seen The Lion King you will get that. Ced and I used to watch it over and over and over when Colton was first born. We would say we were watching it with him, but he was only weeks old so he wasn’t really watching much TV. It was one of our favorites and even today we quote the lines from that movie when we talk. Funny, but you can learn a lot from a meerkat and a wart hog!!

Regardless of all that has occurred during these last 20 years I wouldn’t trade any of it for a second. The only thing I get upset about is that I didn’t apologize earlier and that it took me so long to learn to accept an apology when it was given. Besides that I have no regrets. I believe that we are exactly where we are supposed to be and I wouldn’t give up who either of us has become to have a different past. I look forward to continuing our new beginning and even though we sucked it up as parents to the most precious son on earth I am glad that we’ve finally figured things out. I’m sure Colton is also thrilled that his parents have finally grown up. :)

Anyone could have given me a son, but he is the only person in the entire universe that could have given me Colton. For that I am so thankful that on April 11, 1974 Cederick Lynn Wilbon was born. Happy Birthday Ced!! Thank you for being there for us when we truly needed you the most. It's been a long road for the two of us but one that I would gladly travel again. I wish you nothing but great things this year and your many, many years to come!! Happy 35th (wink, wink) & HAKUNAMATTA!!!

A look back at the good times & some of my favorite pics...